ETIQUETTE IN AMERICA
for
NON-FORMAL and FORMAL DINNERS

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INTRODUCTIONS

NEVER introduce people to each other unless you are sure the acquaintance will be mutually agreeable.

At a Formal or Non-Formal Dinner event or Formal Ball, it is the part of the host and hostess to make introductions amongst the guests; but guests may with perfect
propriety to etiquette introduce very familiar acquaintances (friends) to each other.

It is taken for granted that the host/hostess has invited to the event only such people who are fit to be mutually acquainted, and the fact that they have been invited to meet each other is a sufficient warrant for self-introduction.

When introducing two gentlemen or ladies, look first to the elder, or, if there is any difference in social standing, to the superior. For example, if you are introducing to one who is a Physician or Celebrity, address them first. Polite respect of ones honor held in either education or position is correct etiquette.

A quick mention of Salutations. IN America, under normal circumstances and gestures, men do not embrace each other, nor do they exchange kisses even amongst intimate friends. Demonstrative salutations are in accordance in many European countries. Even between gentlemen, an embrace is accepted a somewhat formal salutation. In America, however, these demonstrations are mostly confined to misses and girls.

Men in America normally acknowledge an introduction by extending the right hand in greeting. The whole hand is extended for a positive demonstration in the introduction.
Offer less than the whole hand, as some snobs will sometimes, and it is a direct insult.
Unless, of course, circumstances occurring prevent the action. History statements and comments describe the right hand as the sword hand, and its extension to a friend is emblematic as a proof of peace, and as a safeguard against treachery.

CONVERSATION AT DINNER

Conversation --real conversation-- is an art and coming into its own as the favorite pastime of dinner guests, and the young man or lady who can keep the conversational "ball" rolling is coming more and more into demand. Good conversationalists are the enjoyment of a party or dinner event. An ambitious young man or women can acquire the technique, and, with time, mould himself or herself into the kind of person upon whom hostesses depend for the success of their party.

Undoubtedly the first law of good communication and conversation is unselfishness. Forgetfulness of one's own wants and comforts, and thoughtfulness for the happiness and ease of others contributes to a polished expression level.

True politeness comes from the heart, from an unselfish desire to please others and contribute to their happiness. When this natural impulse is placed into polished communication at group meetings, dinner parties and events, it is visualized as complete and thorough knowledge for the laws of etiquette.

Politeness can be defined as an outward visible sign of those inward graces called modesty, unselfishness, generosity which will shine when communicating to others at parties and class and cultural events.

The most perfect law of politeness and the safest and surest guide that pertains to the true definition of a gentleman or lady is, like the simple quote, "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you."

CONVERSATION TIPS AND TECHNIQUES

It is POOR ETIQUETTE to stare round a room when you are conversing with a person or any group. This will project your boredom and lack of interest and be perceived to others as being rude without consideration to those you may be standing or sitting with. It will be viewed as bad character and unacceptable etiquette.

Conversation is a showing of character that will inevitably betray those that do not practice generous unselfish actions and quality etiquette. Strive, therefore, to cultivate a tone of mind and a habit of life, that action does not put you to shame in the company of others who are wise to correct etiquette. Following these measures will make easy a worthy and refined intelligence, where you shall not be 'etiquettely' rejected.

If you are conversing, when interrupted by a visitor, and, after the customary greetings, resume the conversation. You should recapitulate the substance of the conversation for the benefit of the new comer to the conversation.

If any conversation takes a tone that is offensive to good taste be silent. It will be a more positive judgment to pass on any negativity in conversation when applying proper etiquette habits.

Do not be too ready to correct any statement you may deem untrue. You may be yourself mistaken in trying to do so and cause further miscommunication.

FIRST IMPRESSIONS

First impressions are apt to be permanent. Therefore, it is of importance that a favorable awareness be presented.

The dress of an individual is that circumstance from which you first form an opinion of a person. It is even more prominent than manner. It is, indeed, many more times than not the only thing which is remarked upon an encounter, or during the first introduction. Therefore, it should be the first care applied to anyone attending a social dinner party and or formal or non-formal dining event.

Style of dress should be consistent with a person's age to some degree. Especially, in a formal dinner gathering where many new introductions will occur. It is best to support your host or hostess without any bizarre or out of the very ordinary forms of dress. A more natural looking natural exterior is a normal acceptance to any dress affair. This, of course, should be discussed prior to attendance and making sure what formal dress if any will be required.. Success in this respect depends almost entirely upon particular circumstances and personal peculiarities, it is impossible to give general directions without the exact type dinner party you are to attend.

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